All of my life I have always wanted to see others succeed, do good, move forward, and have what they need. I grew up watching my uncle, who has been gone a few years now, set an example that at the time I did not realize I would follow. He was the kind of man that would give you the shirt off of his back, his last bite of food, or the last dollar in his pocket and not ask you any questions. This molded me and formed me to be the type of woman that would strive to help others at all expense.
My husband calls it “saving the whales” while I just call it sharing a blessing or paying it forward. I have been blessed in this life to have most everything I could possibly want or need, and this makes me want to do even more for others. I find myself giving when I do not have it to give, and trying to rescue everyone from everything all of the time.
Today I realized my husband is right. Yes, I said it- Honey, YOU WERE RIGHT! Ya better remember me saying that Dear, cause it doesn’t happen often.
So now, let me RE-introduce myself to you all.
Hi, I am Dora. A wife, mother, daughter, sister, aunt, friend, and oh, please lets not leave out, saver of the freakin’ whales!
I have found myself taking on too much lately to the point of breaking. I always have the best of intentions at heart, and want to do right by all of those I say that I love. I break my back for others, even those I do not know, or owe anything to, simply because it is the right thing to do. But what about ME?
I know you must be thinking ‘She is so selfish! How could she be thinking about herself if someone she knows is in need?!’ Well let me just tell you, after exerting all of my time, energy, heart, and soul into everyone else, I SHOULD be asking what about me. I might get 5 minutes a day to myself and that would be an exaggeration at this point. I have come to the conclusion that there will be no more saving the whales, paving my own road to hell, or any other metaphor that is going to put me at the bottom of the list. For once, I am going to put myself at the top of that list and do something for me whether it be something as small as shaving my legs, or as big as running away for the day and hiding at the park with a good book and a sandwich all ALONE!
It is so easy to forget that in order to help others, you have to be able to take care of yourself first. Mentally, physically, and emotionally you need to be whole, and be able to set boundaries. I have always had that problem, and do not know when to say enough is enough.
Many people say that the road to Hell is paved with good intentions, but for me, I am going to get a backhoe and start tearing that road apart, bit by bit, before I lose everything good in my life as well as my willingness to help others altogether!
I grew up in the country. Born and raised in NC. I am a mother to 2 amazing kids, wife to an awesome husband, and all around happy person who loves life!
I am curious about all things pertaining to parenting, and everyday becomes a brand new learning adventure for me and my family.
I love being able to share my experiences, give advice, and help others to be as successful as possible!
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