What about me?
I find myself asking that a lot. As a stay at home mom, I rarely find time for myself in all the day to day tasks I am continually buried in. I know that sounds extremely selfish, but really- WHAT ABOUT ME?
It seems like not too long ago, I was the one that felt catered to, and pampered, but as time has rolled on I find that those in my home are less-than appreciative of all the things that I do to make our daily lives run like clockwork, and more demanding of me when I am all out of “give-a-damn”.
Let’s just start with a list of what MY day looks like, shall we?
- 6AM- Get up, make coffee for hubby, check on the baby (if he isn’t already awake and standing in the doorway ready to run, run, run!) Lay out hubby’s work clothes from socks and underclothes to the uniform.
- 7AM- Make sure hubby’s lunch is packed, make breakfast for the little guy. Start the laundry (this includes redrying the clothes in the dryer from the day before to knock the wrinkles out, then fold them and put them away, fill dryer, refill washer, rinse and repeat!
- 8AM- By now I am feeling run ragged, and still have not stopped to pee, have a cup of coffee, or do anything for me. Hang out with Bubby.
- 9AM – 12PM- Chase the baby, dress him, redress him 3 times, change 2 stinky diapers while he laughs and wiggles the whole time, get my dad motivated and bathed, start the dishes, and start lunch- STILL no coffee for me!
- 1PM- Bubby is down for a nap by now (if I’m lucky), and I might can find time for that cup-o-joe I have been thinking about since 6. Nope, gotta do more laundry, wash-dry-fold-repeat. Blog for a few minutes, try to edit a video, get sidetracked by my dad rummaging for food (even though he JUST ate).
- 2PM – 3PM- Start thinking about dinner, by now I have coffee, but it’s cold. Still ok as long as there is caffeine involved! Search the pantry for options everyone will eat and find I am missing key components. Make a shopping list… Gotta stop the list cause little man is up and soaking wet, gotta bathe him and change his clothes and bedding.
- 4PM -6 PM- By now I have given up on getting anything done for me. Coffee has been long forgotten, and dinner is underway. Opps, I forgot to actually turn the dryer on with the last load, so I gotta dry those before I can get that done!
- 7PM- Feed everyone, bathtime, storytime, prepare for bedtime. Chase my monster through the house while he runs butt naked squealing and laughing because I am chasing him. Now, we shall bathe him!
- 8PM- Lay Bubby down, walk out, turn out light. Type 2 sentences for a new blog post, wait 5 minutes, and have to stop because the baby is up for the umteenth time! Lay him back down, and walk out, repeat as needed until he is too tired to fight me, I am older and wiser, I win this fight!!
- 9PM- Sit down and remember you had a delicious, hot cup of coffee (now frigid and gross) you wanted to drink, but opt for a beer instead… no beer for me, were out!
I am sure this might seem like an exaggeration, but I promise it isn’t- this is a daily thing, and somewhere in there I have to get the dishes done, vacuum, sweep, mop, and find time for me to bathe as well as make time to take my little guy outside to play for a bit. I know there are other moms that have this same daily schedule, and it is hectic, and even sometimes irritating to do the same things day in and day out. I find myself actually enjoying those precious few moments when I get to be alone in the car or at the grocery store and deliberately walk back and forth browsing the aisle in an attempt to make my trip last longer. I need a chance to just BREATHE sometimes, and remind myself that I matter too, because it feels like everyone else has already forgotten.
I don’t mean to sound selfish, or nag, but as a wife, and mother it can be very hard to make time for yourself. I have recently TAKEN time for me by getting a gym membership to a 24 hour fitness center a block from my house. I wait until 1 or 2 AM some nights to go, that way everyone else will be asleep and I can really have some quality time alone to remind myself why I love my job and being able to stay home with my child.
It’s definitely a hard job, but well worth it in the long run, I think. I know I wouldn’t trade a single moment of what I have for all the alone time in the world. I guess what I am getting at, is that feeling appreciate can go a long way, but also making time for yourself. If no one else can remember to put you first, you have to do it on your own.
I grew up in the country. Born and raised in NC. I am a mother to 2 amazing kids, wife to an awesome husband, and all around happy person who loves life!
I am curious about all things pertaining to parenting, and everyday becomes a brand new learning adventure for me and my family.
I love being able to share my experiences, give advice, and help others to be as successful as possible!
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