Lately I have seen so many posts, and articles on Planned Parenthood, and why it is a horrible place. I have read page after page of how they should be shut down and defunded by the federal government, but nowhere have I seen actual facts about what they REALLY do.
I want to share some of my own personal thoughts and experiences on the issue of planned parenthood facilities.
Let me start by saying I am in no way for abortion, but I am also not against it. I, personally, would never have an abortion, but I do believe there are some circumstances that should allow for the option. I will go further into that shortly. For now I want to tell you a story.
When I was younger, I had a son. He will be 13 this year, but I will not get to be a part of that experience. He was adopted early in life as I was a very unprepared mother and had no support system in place. I had no idea who to go to for information and avoided Planned Parenthood because at 18, when someone tells you the only thing they offer is abortion, you cringe. His father was no good, and my family wasn’t any kind of help.
I am now married and have another son, who I will get to see grow up and I was completely prepared this time around, thanks to Planned Parenthood here in my community.
“Never once during my time going there did they pressure me to kill my unborn child so baby body parts could be harvested.”
Our local office is called Women’s Care Center, and they do so much more than just “killing babies”. Upon my first time going in, yes, they did tell me abortion was an option, but that was NOT the first thing they said to me. First they offered me a pregnancy test to verify I was indeed pregnant. Then they asked me if I had a plan and a support system in place. I told them I had a support system, and wanted to keep my baby since I was married and we had been trying to conceive. I was there for help and this is what they told me:
“We can offer you many options here. If you are planning to keep and raise your baby then abortion and adoption are not for you, but they are available options if needed. Since you are planning to have your baby we can offer you parenting classes and support. When you come to a class, you will receive vouchers you can save towards purchasing things from our little baby shop here, made available by donations from the public. 99% of the items are brand new, and we have everything from clothing to cribs in there. We will also give you 10 newborn or size 1 diapers with each class you attend, and 10 more if your husband or significant other attends as well. That’s a total of 20 diapers each time you both come in. We can give you referrals to other places in the community for assistance if needed. We also have groups a few times a month and would love for you to come and meet other moms. We are so glad you came here and we are very glad to have you!”
This was my initial conversation with the women there. They also have a doctor there, and have ultrasound equipment if needed, among many other amenities and services.
Never once during my time going there did they pressure me to kill my unborn child so baby body parts could be harvested. They did offer me birthcontrol for after the baby was born, but my doctors office took care of that and instead they gave me tons of condoms!
With my parenting classes, I learned many things I have used with my son such as soothing techniques, how to swaddle, I learned about breastfeeding & babywearing, and I even learned how to bathe my little guy appropriately. I also bought a brand new crib, crib mattress, a stroller and an infant car seat with all of the coupons I earned from the classes. I got a few outfits, and some other odds and ends with what was left over.
When I hear people say these amazing people that work at these places are all about abortion it makes me angry. Yes, there are some facilities that offer abortions and ONLY abortions, but from my own personal experiences, I would not have had everything I needed when my son was born if it had not been for them. I was on strict bed rest, and my husband was the sole breadwinner in our home. With the ups and downs of hours each week we struggled, but he always made time to be at those appointments with me, and even played with the “baby” they brought in for us to practice swaddling and breastfeeding holds. Now, we are okay, he has a full time job and I am able to stay home with our son, thanks to the support and donations from the Women’s Care Center.
When you think of Planned Parenthood, please stop thinking of it as a bad place, because there are so many great things they have to offer other than abortion. Researching something fully, pays off!
As far as my views on abortion, I feel that it should be an option but only when medically necessary, or when the woman is a victim of rape. I do not think it should be an option for irresponsible women that can lay down, spread their legs, and make a life without fully considering the impact it truly has. It should not be a “way out” and they should be using birthcontrol of some type.
In the end, I am thankful for my own experiences and being able to share them with you, and I hope that my readers will understand this was solely for the purpose of educating people and not trying to tear anyone down in any way. Like I said, researching something to the fullest can go a long way, and when it comes to something like this, it can be a huge help to young moms that can’t get what they need, or have no one to help them, or teach them how to be parents.
Please comment below, and tell me if you have had an experience like mine, or your views. I ask that you not be derogatory, but be honest. There is a difference.
I grew up in the country. Born and raised in NC. I am a mother to 2 amazing kids, wife to an awesome husband, and all around happy person who loves life!
I am curious about all things pertaining to parenting, and everyday becomes a brand new learning adventure for me and my family.
I love being able to share my experiences, give advice, and help others to be as successful as possible!
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